But First...
What is guided disclosure?
If you've never heard this term before, you're not alone. Many people don't find out it exists until they've already been through something that could have gone very differently with the right support.
Guided disclosure is a structured, professionally supported process in which a partner who has been living a secret life voluntarily shares the full truth of that secret with the person they harmed.
And often, it's not just one secret. Disclosure covers the full pattern of deception — sexual behavior, affairs, and any other behaviors that have been hidden. Sometimes that includes gambling, alcohol, or other secretive behaviors.
The full truth. Prepared with intention. Delivered with support. Received with care.
Disclosure is about restoring a baseline of integrity and equity in the relationship. The betraying partner made a unilateral decision to deprive their partner of consent — to keep hidden the things that put them in danger or lived secretly inside their relationship. You cannot keep yourself safe if you don't know your full reality.
That is what disclosure gives back to you.
I am certified through Kintsugi Recovery Partners as a Certified Disclosure Guide Coach, and use the disclosure methodology created by Dr. Janice Caudiill and Dan Drake which honors both members of the coupleship in the truth-telling process. It is considered the gold standard of care for resetting truth and power in the relationship and establishing a baseline of integrity that both partners can build from.
It’s important to note that even amongst professionals, there is significant disagreement about how guided disclosure should be handled. Not all approaches are equal, and access to quality care is a real barrier.
That is the standard I bring to every disclosure I guide.
Disclosure is often the first real marker of whether a relationship can survive. It is a dividing line between unreality and honesty. Between the version of your life you were handed and the truth of what was actually happening.
When done well, it becomes the foundation everything else is built on. A new baseline of reality that both partners can stand on together.
Disclosures are only as good as the person giving them.
One of the most significant milestones in betrayal recovery.
That is why preparation matters. I help the betrayed partner receive the truth they deserve, and the betraying partner give the full truth — so that a real foundation can finally be established.
This is not a gotcha process. It is not adversarial. It is not about punishment. It is about truth. Restorative justice. The end of secrecy and the beginning of something real.
When I guide a disclosure, I want the betrayed partner to receive the full truth they deserve. I want the betraying partner to feel the freedom that comes from finally living without secrets. And I want the process to be a foundation of truth, safety, and real repair — not another source of harm.
That is what a well-guided disclosure can be. And that is what I'm trained to provide.
I want everyone in that room to win.
This is not a one-session event. It is a process that unfolds over weeks.
So, what does the process actually look like?
THE PROCESS…
A typical preparation often takes 8 to 12 weeks and 15 to 30 hours of coaching. In a well-done guided disclosure, both partners work with their own dedicated guide.
In certain cases where safety is in jeopardy, I may be able to help you with a brief, emergency disclosure while we continue to work towards bringing out the full truth of deception.
Here is what that preparation looks like for each person.
The weeks between deciding to pursue disclosure and the day it happens are some of the most difficult of the entire healing process.
You're carrying the weight of not fully knowing. You're trying to figure out what you even want to know, how to prepare, and how to walk into that room and advocate for yourself without falling apart.
I walk with you through all of it and help partners learn to care for themselves during the waiting time.
Together we'll get clear on your disclosure needs. What do you want to know? What questions matter most to you? Do you want to know who it was? Whether it was someone you know? We get specific, because the document they write will be shaped by your needs.
Preparing to Receive
For The Betrayed Partner
My goal is for you to walk into that room feeling as prepared, supported, and grounded as possible.
Wherever you choose to do this, I will be there.
The Day of the Disclosure
This is what we call the Rite of Truth. Because that is exactly what it is.
On the day of your disclosure, I reserve my entire day for you. I do not see other clients. I am not distracted. This is not a routine appointment, it is one of the most significant moments of the healing process, and it receives my full presence and care.
Disclosures can be conducted virtually or in person. If you choose in person, I recommend finding a neutral space outside of your home. Somewhere that feels safe and contained for everyone involved. I am happy to travel to you for an in-person disclosure. Travel expenses are covered by the client.
I can help you understand the role polygraphs play, weigh the pros and cons for your specific situation, and help you locate a reputable polygrapher if you choose to use one.
A word on polygraphs
Some people find polygraphs deeply valuable. Others are opposed to them.
What I know is this: With an experienced and trained a polygrapher, it can be a powerful tool for creating a felt sense of safety and reality after years of deception. It is not required. It is never pressured. And the decision is always yours.
INVESTMENT DETAILS
I believe that access to the right support shouldn't be a mystery.
Here's exactly what working together looks like.
Per session
$150
50-minute session
A great starting point. Pay as you go.
Per month
$500
Monthly package
4 sessions + up to 2 brief check-in calls per week. Disclosure prep is intense. The monthly package means you're never navigating the hardest moments alone.
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RITE OF TRUTH: DAY OF DISCLOSURE
- Up to 4 hours, day-of disclosure support
- Travel for in-person disclosures
- Document review & preparation guidance
- Coordination with therapists and recovery professionals
Investment:
- Day of Disclosure: Starting at $750
- Travel: $75/hr + expenses
- Non-routine document review: $100/hr
A deeply guided, highly individualized process designed to support truth, clarity, and relational safety.
Your first 30-minute consultation is always free.
Every disclosure process is different.
The level of preparation, coordination, and support required depends on the complexity of the situation, the readiness of both partners, and the professional team involved.
Because of the highly personalized nature of this work, disclosure services are offered on a case-by-case basis and may not be appropriate for every situation.
Once I understand your circumstances and goals, I’ll provide a written estimate and help determine whether this process feels like the right fit.
Preparation typically involves 15–30 hours of coaching over the course of 8–12 weeks.
FOR THERAPISTS AND CLINICAL COLLEAGUES.
If you are working with a client who is approaching disclosure, I can help.
Disclosure preparation is intensive, time-consuming work. As a Certified Disclosure Guide Coach, I specialize in exactly this process, freeing you to remain focused on the deeper therapeutic work with your client while I handle the preparation, the document, and the day-of support, if you desire.
I understand the importance of coordinated care and make collaboration a priority. Your client's therapeutic relationship is always respected and supported.
If you have a client who needs disclosure support, I would love to connect.
Reach out to discuss a referral or collaborative arrangement →
No. In a well-done guided disclosure, each person needs their own guide. I work with one person per disclosure. I can help connect the other partner with the right support.
Can you work with both of us?
Typically 8 to 12 weeks and 15 to 30 hours of coaching, though it can take longer depending on the complexity of the situation.
How long does preparation take?
That is important information. A partner's willingness to offer a full disclosure is often one of the first real indicators of whether genuine repair is possible. I can help you think through what that means for your situation.
What if my partner refuses to do a disclosure?
No. It is your choice. But in my experience, a well-done disclosure is one of the most stabilizing things a couple can do. It ends the guessing. It restores a baseline of reality, integrity, and equity to the relationship. And it gives both people a foundation of reality to build on. It’s the starting point of a rebuilding, but not the finish line.
Do I have to do a guided disclosure?
Frequently Asked Questions
Yes. I am happy to travel to you for an in-person disclosure at the client's expense.
